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一：Love Is Not Like MerchandiseA reader in Florida, apparently bruised by some personal experience, writes in to complain, "If I steal a nickel's worth of merchandise, I am a thief and punished; but if I steal the love of another's wife, I am free."This is a prevalent misconception in many people's minds---that love, like merchandise, can be "stolen". Numerous states, in fact, have enacted laws allowing damages for "alienation of affections".But love is not a commodity; the real thing cannot be bought, sold, traded or stolen. It is an act of the will, a turning of the emotions, a change in the climate of the personality.When a husband or wife is "stolen" by another person, that husband or wife was already ripe for the stealing, was already predisposed toward a new partner. The "love bandit" was only taking what was waiting to be taken, what wanted to be taken.We tend to treat persons like goods. We even speak of the children "belonging" to their parents. But nobody "belongs" to anyone else. Each person belongs to himself, and to God. Children are entrusted to their parents, and if their parents do not treat them properly, the state has a right to remove them from their parents' trusteeship.Most of us, when young, had the experience of a sweetheart being taken from us by somebody more attractive and more appealing. At the time, we may have resented this intruder---but as we grew older, we recognized that the sweetheart had never been ours to begin with. It was not the intruder that "caused" the break, but the lack of a real relationship.On the surface, many marriages seem to break up because of a "third party". This is, however, a psychological illusion. The other woman or the other man merely serves as a pretext for dissolving a marriage that had already lost its essential integrity.Nothing is more futile and more self-defeating than the bitterness of spurned love, the vengeful feeling that someone else has "come between" oneself and a beloved. This is always a distortion of reality, for people are not the captives or victims of others---they are free agents, working out their own destinies for good or for ill.But the rejected lover or mate cannot afford to believe that his beloved has freely turned away from him--- and so he ascribes sinister or magical properties to the interloper. He calls him a hypnotist or a thief or a home-breaker. In the vast majority of cases, however, when a home is broken, the breaking has begun long before any "third party" has appeared on the scene.译文：爱情不是商品佛罗里达州的一位读者显然是在个人经历上受过创伤, 他写信来抱怨道: “如果我偷走了五分钱的商品, 我就是个贼, 要受到惩罚, 但是如果我偷走了他人妻子的爱情, 我没事儿。”这是许多人心目中普遍存在的一种错误观念——爱情, 像商品一样, 可以 “偷走”。实际上，许多州都颁布法令，允许索取“情感转让”赔偿金。但是爱情并不是商品；真情实意不可能买到，卖掉，交换，或者偷走。爱情是志愿的行动，是感情的转向，是个性发挥上的变化。当丈夫或妻子被另一个人“偷走”时，那个丈夫或妻子就已经具备了被偷走的条件，事先已经准备接受新的伴侣了。这位“爱匪”不过是取走等人取走、盼人取走的东西。我们往往待人如物。我们甚至说孩子“属于”父母。但是谁也不“属于”谁。人都属于自己和上帝。孩子是托付给父母的，如果父母不善待他们，州政府就有权取消父母对他们的托管身份。我们多数人年轻时都有过恋人被某个更有诱惑力、更有吸引力的人夺去的经历。在当时，我们兴许怨恨这位不速之客---但是后来长大了，也就认识到了心上人本来就不属于我们。并不是不速之客“导致了”决裂，而是缺乏真实的关系。从表面上看，许多婚姻似乎是因为有了“第三者”才破裂的。然而这是一种心理上的幻觉。另外那个女人，或者另外那个男人，无非是作为借口，用来解除早就不是完好无损的婚姻罢了。因失恋而痛苦，因别人“插足”于自己与心上人之间而图报复，是最没有出息、最自作自受的乐。这种事总是歪曲了事实真相，因为谁都不是给别人当俘虏或牺牲品——人都是自由行事的，不论命运是好是坏，都由自己来作主。但是，遭离弃的情人或配偶无法相信她的心上人是自由地背离他的——因而他归咎于插足者心术不正或迷人有招。他把他叫做催眠师、窃贼或破坏家庭的人。然而，从大多数事例看，一个家的破裂，是早在什么“第三者”出现之前就开始了的。二：放慢你的脚步A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street， going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something.As his car passed， one child appeared， and a brick smashed into the Jag's side door. He slammed on the brakes and spun the Jag back to the spot from where the brick had been thrown.He jumped out of the car, grabbed some kid and pushed him up against a parked car， shouting， "What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing?"Building up a head of steam， he went on"That's a new car and that brick you threw is gonna cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?"“Please， mister， please， I'm sorry. I didn't know what else to do!”pleaded the youngster." It's my brother，" he said. "He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up.Sobbing， the boy asked the executive， "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me."Moved beyond words， the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He lifted the young man back into the wheelchair and took out his handkerchief and wiped the scrapes and cuts， checking to see that everything was going to be okay."Thank you， sir. And God bless you，" the grateful child said to him. The man then watched the little boy push his brother to the sidewalk toward their home.It was a long walk backs to his Jaguar... a long， slow walk. He never did repair the side door. He kept the dent to remind him not to go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention.Life whispers in your soul and speaks to your heart. Sometimes,when you don't have the time to listen,it's your choice: Listen to the whispers of your soul or wait for the brick!Do you sometimes ignore loved ones because your life is too fast and busy leaving them to wonder whether you really love them?译文：一位年轻的总裁，以有点快的车速，开着他的新车子经过住宅区的巷道。他必须小心游戏中的孩子突然跑到路中央，所以当他觉得小孩子快跑出来时，就要减慢车速。就在他的车经过一群小朋友的时候，一个小朋友丢了一块砖头打到了他的车门，他很生气的踩了煞车并后退到砖头丢出来的地方。他跳出车外，抓了那个小孩，把他顶在车门上说：“你为什么这样做，你知道你刚刚做了什么吗？” 接着又吼道：“你知不知道你要赔多少钱来修理这台新车，你到底为什么要这样做？”小孩子求着说：“先生，对不起，我不知道我还能怎么办？”他接着说：“因为我哥哥从轮椅上掉下来，我没办法把他抬回去。”那男孩啜泣着说：“你可以帮我把他抬回去吗？他受伤了，而且他太重了我抱不动。”这些话让这位年轻的总裁深受感动，他抱起男孩受伤的哥哥，帮他坐回轮椅上。并拿出手帕擦拭他哥哥的伤口，以确定他哥哥没有什么大问题。那个小男孩感激地说：“谢谢你，先生，上帝保佑你。” 然后他看着男孩推着他哥哥回去。年轻总裁返回的路变的很漫长，他也没有修他汽车的侧门。他保留着车上的凹痕就是提醒自己。生活的道路不要走的太匆忙，否则需要其他人敲打自己来注意生活的真谛。当生命想与你的心灵窃窃私语时，若你没有时间，你有两种选择：倾听你心灵的声音或让砖头来砸你！请问你是否曾因为生活太快、太忙碌而忽略了你所爱的人，然后让他们开始开始怀疑起你是不是真的爱他们呢？三：Facing the Sea With Spring Blossoms—HaiZiFrom tomorrow on,I will be a happy man.Grooming,chopping and traveling all over the world.From tomorrow on,I will care foodstuff and vegetable.Living in a house towards the sea, with spring blossoms.From tomorrow on,write to each of my dear ones.Telling them of my happiness.What the lightening of happiness has told me.I will spread it to each of them.Give a warm name for every river and every mountain.Strangers,I will also wish you happy.May you have a brilliant future!May you lovers eventually become spouses!May you enjoy happiness in this earthly world!I only wish to face the sea, with spring blossoms.译文：面朝大海，春暖花开—海子从明天起，做一个幸福的人喂马，劈柴，周游世界从明天起，关心粮食和蔬菜我有一所房子，面朝大海，春暖花开从明天起，和每一个人通信告诉他们我的幸福那幸福的闪电告诉我的我将告诉每一个人给每一条河每一座山取一个温暖的名字陌生人，我也为你祝福愿你有一个灿烂的前程愿有情人终成眷属愿你们在尘世获得幸福我只愿面朝大海，春暖花开四：True NobilityIn a calm sea every man is a pilot.But all sunshine without shade, all pleasure without pain, is not life at all.Take the lot of the happiest - it is a tangled yarn.Bereavements and blessings,one following another, make us sad and blessed by turns. Even death itself makes life more loving. Men come closest to their true selves in the sober moments of life, under the shadows of sorrow and loss.In the affairs of life or of business, it is not intellect that tells so much as character, not brains so much as heart, not genius so much as self-control, patience, and discipline, regulated by judgment. I have always believed that the man who has begun to live more seriously within begins to live more simply without. In an age of extravagance and waste, I wish I could show to the world how few the real wants of humanity are. To regret one's errors to the point of not repeating them is true repentance.There is nothing noble in being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self.译文： 真正的高贵在风平浪静的大海上,每个人都是领航员。但只有阳光没有阴影,只有快乐没有痛苦,根本不是真正的生活.就拿最幸福的人来说,他的生活也是一团缠结在一起的乱麻。痛苦与幸福交替出现,使得我们一会悲伤一会高兴。甚至死亡本身都使得生命更加可爱。在人生清醒的时刻,在悲伤与失落的阴影之下,人们与真实的自我最为接近。在生活和事业的种种事务之中，性格比才智更能指导我们，心灵比头脑更能引导我们，而由判断获得的克制、耐心和教养比天分更能让我们受益。我一向认为，内心生活开始更为严谨的人，他的外在生活也会变得更为简朴。在物欲横流的年代，但愿我能向世人表明：人类的真正需求少得多么可怜。反思自己的过错不至于重蹈覆辙才是真正的悔悟。高人一等并没有什么值得夸耀的。真正的高贵是优于过去的自已。五：行如其人It was a sunny Saturday afternoon in Oklahoma City. My friend and proud father Bobby Lewis was taking his two little boys to play miniature golf. He walked up to the fellow at the ticket counter and said, "How much is it to get in?"The young man replied, "$3.00 for you and $3.00 for any kid who is older than six. We let them in free if they are six or younger. How old are they?"Bobby replied, "The lawyer's three and the doctor is seven, so I guess I owe you $6.00."The man at the ticket counter said, "Hey, Mister, did you just win the lottery or something? You could have saved yourself three bucks. You could have told me that the older one was six; I wouldn't have known the difference." Bobby replied, "Yes, that may be true, but the kids would have known the difference."As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Who you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying." In challenging times when ethics are more important than ever before, make sure you set a good example for everyone you work and live with.译文：行如其人这是奥克拉荷马城的一个晴朗的星期六下午。我的朋友巴比·路易斯，一位令人敬佩的父亲，带着他的两个小儿子去玩迷你高尔夫。他走向售票处，向售票员问道：“进去需要花多少钱？”那个年轻人回答道：“你，3美元；6岁以上的儿童，3美元。6岁以下的儿童免费。他们多大了？”巴比回答：“律师，3岁；医生，7岁。所以我想我应该付给你6美元。”那个售票的说：“嘿，先生，你是刚赢了彩票还是怎么了？你本可以省下3美元的。你可以告诉我，最大的6岁。我根本看不出来。”巴比回答：“对，那可能行得通，但是这些孩子会知道这其中的差别。”就像拉尔夫·沃尔多·爱默生说的那样：“你本身要比你所说的话重要。”在这个道德比以往任何时候都重要的年代里，你最好给和你一起你生活和工作的人树立一个良好的榜样。ps：（这上面的文章有一部分是杂志英语广场上的，如果你不喜欢，我可以给你一个网址，你可以自己找需要的。另外，求采纳哦！）网址： 网址
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英语美文赏析也是我们学习英语的一个途径，也能让我们学学别人的文笔。以下是我整理的5篇经典英语美文，供大家学习和参阅。
1、If not to the sun for smiling, warm is still in the sun there, but wewill laugh more confident calm; if turned to found his own shadow, appropriate escape, the sun will be through the heart,warm each place behind the corner; if an outstretched palm cannot fall butterfly, then clenched waving arms, given power; if I can't have bright smile, it will face to the sunshine, and sunshine smile together, in full bloom.
译文：如果不向太阳索取微笑,温暖仍在太阳那里,但我们会笑得更加自信从容;如果转过身去发现了自己的影子,适当的躲让,阳光便可穿越心灵,温暖每一处身后的角落;如果摊开的掌心不能点落蝴蝶,那就紧握成拳挥动臂膀,给予力量;如果我不能够微笑得灿烂,那就将脸投向灿烂的阳光,与阳光一起微笑,烂漫。
2、When you love who you are,you become a conduit of light.Just drop into your heart space,and live life from this view.For all of this doing is not who you are.Listen to your heart’s soft whisper,this voice will show you the way.Live life from your essence is what she will say.See the light in yourself,and your world will be bright.There is no need to worry,you are exactly as you should be;remember to love who you are,and love you will see.
译文：当你爱自己的时候，你会成为一道光。只需触及心房，并遵循本心来生活。做这一切无关你是谁。聆听内心轻柔的呢喃，她会告诉你方法。遵循本性来生活她会这样告诉你。欣赏自身的光芒，你的世界都会变得明亮。没必要担心，你正是自己本来的模样;记得爱自己，爱自己欣赏的一切。
3、Occasionally, life can be undeniably, impossibly difficult. We are faced with challenges and events that can seem overwhelming, life-destroying to the point where it may be hard to decide whether to keep going. But you always have a choice. Jessica Heslop shares her powerful, inspiring journey from the worst times in her life to the new life she has created for herself.
译文：生活有时候困难得难以置信，但又不容置疑。我们面临的挑战与困境似乎无法抵御，试图毁灭我们生活，甚至使你犹疑是否继续走下去。但是你总有选择的余地。从人生低谷走向新生活的杰西卡·赫斯乐普，在这里与我们分享她启迪心灵、充满震撼力的生活之旅。
4、So it is with us. We build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up less than the best. At important points we do not give the job our best effort. Then with a shock we look at the situation we have created and find that we are now living in the house we have built. If we had realized, we would have done it differently.
译文：想象一下你就是这个木匠，想象你正在建造这座房子，你每天钉进一颗钉子、安装一块板子或者筑起一面墙。请用心对待吧，这是唯一一个你为自己打造的生活。即使你只在里面住上一天，这一天也要活得有光彩、有尊严。正如格言所说，“生活是一个只有靠自己才能完成的项目。”
5、Time is like a river, the left bank is unable to forget the memories, right is worth grasp the youth, the middle of the fast flowing, is the sad young faint. There are many good things, buttruly belong to own but not much. See the courthouse blossom,honor or disgrace not Jing, hope heaven Yunjuanyunshu, has no intention to stay. In this round the world, all can learn to use a normal heart to treat all around, is also a kind of realm!
译文：岁月就象一条河,左岸是无法忘却的回忆,右岸是值得把握的青春年华,中间飞快流淌的,是年轻隐隐的伤感.世间有许多美好的东西,但真正属于自己的却并不多.看庭前花开花落,荣辱不惊,望天上云卷云舒,去留无意.在这个纷绕的世界里,能够学会用一颗平常的心去对待周围的一切,也是一种境界!
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第二篇Companionship of Books 以书为伴（节选） A man may usually be known by the books he reads aswell as by the company he keeps; for there is a companionship of books as wellas of men; and one should always live in the best company, whether it be ofbooks or of men. A good book may be among the best of friends. It isthe same today that it always was, and it will never change. It is the mostpatient and cheerful of companions. It does not turn its back upon us in timesof adversity or distress. It always receives us with the same kindness; amusingand instructing us in youth, and comforting and consoling us in age. Men often discover their affinity to each other by themutual love they have for a book just as two persons sometimes discover afriend by the admirationwhich both entertain for athird. There is an old proverb, ‘Love me, love my dog.” But there ismore wisdom in this:” Love me, love my book.” The book is a truer and higherbond of union. Men can think, feel, and sympathize with each other throughtheir favorite author. They live in him together, and he in them. A good book is often the best urn of a life enshriningthe best that life could think out; for the world of a man’s life is, for themost part, but the world of his thoughts. Thus the best books are treasuries ofgood words, the golden thoughts, which, remembered and cherished, become ourconstant companions and comforters. Books possess an essence of immortality. They are byfar the most lasting products of human effort. Temples and statues decay, butbooks survive. Time is of no account with great thoughts, which are as freshtoday as when they first passed through their author’s minds, ages ago. Whatwas then said and thought still speaks to us as vividly as ever from theprinted page. The only effect of time have been to sift out the bad products;for nothing in literature can long survive e but what is really good. Books introduce us into the best society; they bringus into the presence of the greatest minds that have ever lived. We hear whatthey said and did; we see the as if they were really alive; we sympathize withthem, enjoy with them, grieve with them; their experience becomes ours, and wefeel as if we were in a measure actors with them in the scenes which theydescribe.The great and good do not die, even in this world. Embalmed （铭记于心）in books, their spirits walk abroad. The book is a living voice. Itis an intellect to which on still listens.通常看一个读些什么书就可知道他的为人，就像看他同什么人交往就可知道他的为人一样，因为有人以人为伴，也有人以书为伴。无论是书友还是朋友，我们都应该以最好的为伴。好书就像是你最好的朋友。它始终不渝，过去如此，现在如此，将来也永远不变。它是最有耐心，最令人愉悦的伴侣。在我们穷愁潦倒，临危遭难时，它也不会抛弃我们，对我们总是一如既往地亲切。在我们年轻时，好书陶冶我们的性情，增长我们的知识；到我们年老时，它又给我们以慰藉和勉励。人们常常因为喜欢同一本书而结为知已，就像有时两个人因为敬慕同一个人而成为朋友一样。有句古谚说道：“爱屋及屋。”其实“爱我及书”这句话蕴涵更多的哲理。书是更为真诚而高尚的情谊纽带。人们可以通过共同喜爱的作家沟通思想，交流感情，彼此息息相通，并与自己喜欢的作家思想相通，情感相融。好书常如最精美的宝器，珍藏着人生的思想的精华，因为人生的境界主要就在于其思想的境界。因此，最好的书是金玉良言和崇高思想的宝库，这些良言和思想若铭记于心并多加珍视，就会成为我们忠实的伴侣和永恒的慰藉。书籍具有不朽的本质，是为人类努力创造的最为持久的成果。寺庙会倒坍，神像会朽烂，而书却经久长存。对于伟大的思想来说，时间是无关紧要的。多年前初次闪现于作者脑海的伟大思想今日依然清新如故。时间惟一的作用是淘汰不好的作品，因为只有真正的佳作才能经世长存。书籍介绍我们与最优秀的人为伍，使我们置身于历代伟人巨匠之间，如闻其声，如观其行，如见其人，同他们情感交融，悲喜与共，感同身受。我们觉得自己仿佛在作者所描绘的舞台上和他们一起粉墨登场。即使在人世间，伟大杰出的人物也永生不来。他们的精神被载入书册，传于四海。书是人生至今仍在聆听的智慧之声，永远充满着活力。 ·第四篇：If I Rest,I Rust 如果我休息，我就会生锈If I Rest, I Rust The significant inscription found on an old key---“IfI rest, I rust”---would be an excellent motto for those who are afflicted withthe slightest(半点) bit of idleness. Even themost industrious person might adopt it with advantage to serve as a reminderthat, if one allows his faculties to rest, like the iron in the unused key,they will soon show signs of rust and, ultimately, cannot do the work requiredof them. Those who would attain the heights reached and kept bygreat men must keep their faculties polished by constant use, so that they mayunlock the doors of knowledge, the gate that guard the entrances to theprofessions, to science, art, literature, agriculture---every department ofhuman endeavor. Industry keeps bright the key that opens the treasuryof achievement. If Hugh Miller, after toiling all day in a quarry(采石场矿产),had devoted his evenings to rest and recreation, he would never have become afamous geologist. The celebrated（著名的） mathematician, Edmund Stone,would never have published a mathematical dictionary, never have found the keyto science of mathematics, if he had given his spare moments to idleness, hadthe little Scotch lad（小伙子）, Ferguson, allowed the busybrain to go to sleep while he tended sheep on the hillside instead ofcalculating the position of the stars by a string of beads（珠子）,he would never have become a famous astronomer. Labor vanquishes all---not inconstant, spasmodic, orill-directed labor; but faithful, unremitting, daily effort toward awell-directed purpose. Just as truly as eternal vigilance is the price of liberty, so is eternal industry the price of nobleand enduring success.·第四篇：如果我休息，我就会生锈在一把旧钥匙上发现了一则意义深远的铭文——如果我休息，我就会生锈。对于那些懒散而烦恼的人来说，这将是至理名言。甚至最为勤勉的人也以此作为警示：如果一个人有才能而不用，就像废弃钥匙上的铁一样，这些才能就会很快生锈，并最终无法完成安排给自己的工作。有些人想取得伟人所获得并保持的成就，他们就必须不断运用自身才能，以便开启知识的大门，即那些通往人类努力探求的各个领域的大门，这些领域包括各种职业：科学，艺术，文学，农业等。勤奋使开启成功宝库的钥匙保持光亮。如果休·米勒在采石场劳作一天后，晚上的时光用来休息消遣的话，他就不会成为名垂青史的地质学家。著名数学家爱德蒙·斯通如果闲暇时无所事事，就不会出版数学词典，也不会发现开启数学之门的钥匙。如果苏格兰青年弗格森在山坡上放羊时，让他那思维活跃的大脑处于休息状态，而不是借助一串珠子计算星星的位置，他就不会成为著名的天文学家。劳动征服一切。这里所指的劳动不是断断续续的，间歇性的或方向偏差的劳动，而是坚定的，不懈的，方向正确的每日劳动。正如要想拥有自由就要时刻保持警惕一样，要想取得伟大的，持久的成功，就必须坚持不懈地努力。·第五篇：Ambition 抱负Ambition It is not difficult to imagine a world short ofambition. It would probably be a kinder world: with out demands, withoutabrasions, without disappointments. People would have time for reflection. Suchwork as they did would not be for themselves but for the collectivity.Competition would never enter in. conflict would be eliminated, tension becomea thing of the past. The stress of creation would be at an end. Art would nolonger be troubling, but purely celebratory欢乐的in its functions. Longevity would be increased, for fewer people would die ofheart attack or stroke caused by tumultuous endeavor. Anxiety would be extinct.Time would stretch on and on, with ambition long departed from the human heart. Ah, how unrelieved未减轻的boring life would be! There is a strong view that holds that success is amyth, and ambition therefore a sham. Does this mean that success does notreally exist? That achievement is at bottom empty? That the efforts of men andwomen are of no significance alongside the force of movements and events nownot all success, obviously, is worth esteeming（尊重）,nor all ambition worth cultivating. Which are and which are not is somethingone soon enough learns on one’s own. But even the most cynical secretly admitthat success exists; that achievement counts for a great deal; and that thetrue myth is that the actions of men and women are useless. To believeotherwise is to take on a point of view that is likely to be deranging.(打乱)It is, in its implications, to remove all motives for competence, interest inattainment, and regard for posterity（子孙）. We do not choose to be born. We do not choose ourparents. We do not choose our historical epoch新纪元,the country of our birth, or the immediate circumstances of our upbringing. Wedo not, most of us, choose to die; nor do we choose the time or conditions ofour death. But within all this realm of choicelessness, we do choose how weshall live: courageously or in cowardice, honorably or dishonorably, with purposeor in drift. We decide what is important and what is trivial in life. We decidethat what makes us significant is either what we do or what we refuse to do.But no matter how indifferent the universe may be to our choices and decisions,these choices and decisions are ours to make. We decide. We choose. And as wedecide and choose, so are our lives formed. In the end, forming our own destinyis what ambition is about.我们来决定什么使我们有意义，通过我们做什么或者我们拒绝做什么，但是不管这个世界对我们的选择与决定多么漠视，这些选择与决定的掌握权始终在我们手里。一个缺乏抱负的世界将会怎样，这不难想象。或许，这将是一个更为友善的世界：没有渴求，没有磨擦，没有失望。人们将有时间进行反思。他们所从事的工作将不是为了他们自身，而是为了整个集体。竞争永远不会介入；冲突将被消除。人们的紧张关系将成为过往云烟。创造的重压将得以终结。艺术将不再惹人费神，其功能将纯粹为了庆典。人的寿命将会更长，因为由激烈拼争引起的心脏病和中风所导致的死亡将越来越少。焦虑将会消失。时光流逝，抱负却早已远离人心。 啊，长此以往人生将变得多么乏味无聊！ 有一种盛行的观点认为，成功是一种神话，因此抱负亦属虚幻。这是不是说实际上并不丰在成功？成就本身就是一场空？与诸多运动和事件的力量相比，男男女女的努力显得微不足？显然，并非所有的成功都值得景仰，也并非所有的抱负都值得追求。对值得和不值得的选择，一个人自然而然很快就能学会。但即使是最为愤世嫉俗的人暗地里也承认，成功确实存在，成就的意义举足轻重，而把世上男男女女的所作所为说成是徒劳无功才是真正的无稽之谈。认为成功不存在的观点很可能造成混乱。这种观点的本意是一笔勾销所有提高能力的动机，求取业绩的兴趣和对子孙后代的关注。 我们无法选择出生，无法选择父母，无法选择出生的历史时期与国家，或是成长的周遭环境。我们大多数人都无法选择死亡，无法选择死亡的时间或条件。但是在这些无法选择之中，我们的确可以选择自己的生活方式：是勇敢无畏还是胆小怯懦，是光明磊落还是厚颜无耻，是目标坚定还是随波逐流。我们决定生活中哪些至关重要，哪些微不足道。我们决定，用以显示我们自身重要性的，不是我们做了什么，就是我们拒绝做些什么。但是不论世界对我们所做的选择和决定有多么漠不关心，这些选择和决定终究是我们自己做出的。我们决定，我们选择。而当我们决定和选择时，我们的生活便得以形成。最终构筑我们命运的就是抱负之所在。
