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先问大家一个问题。假设你很爱玩游戏，现在你想戒掉游戏。但是今天有个刚认识的朋友约你打游戏，那你会怎么思考：a.我最近在戒游戏不能打b.我是一个不打游戏的人你觉得哪种回答今天你不会玩游戏的概率更大？很显然，是b。b选项这个回答是你给自己安排了一个“不打游戏者”的身份，这个身份会让你做出符合身份的选择。而对于a选项，这个回应就已经表明了你是一个“打游戏的人”，你在做内心的挣扎，可能对方劝说几句你就会“好吧，今天就放松一下玩玩吧”。而在平时，我们想改变自己的时候，心里一般都是a选项，默认自己的身份还是没有变的。比如：我想通过四六级，所以我要努力复习，成为hr眼中英语好的毕业生我想减肥成功，所以要辛苦的节食和运动，成为一个瘦子上述的情况都是这个过程：我想...所以...最后成为。即：结果—过程—身份但今天我要强调的是，你们的顺序完全颠倒了。我希望你们这样想：我是有英语天赋的人，所以只要我认真学了我就可以通过四六级。我本就是瘦子，只是一不小吃胖了，我会瘦回来的。这就是正确的顺序：身份—过程—结果有没有感受到微妙的差别？其实这“微妙的差别”已经让思考层次上升了1—3级。2.6个理解层次美国心理学家理查德·班德勒和约翰·格林德在1976年创办的一门学科：神经语言学，简称NLP。NLP中有一个重要的概念，叫做理解层次。由下到上，级别越来越高。举个例子简答解释一下这个图比如期末考试考砸了：【结果—过程—身份】这个过程可能是NO.6~NO.3的任何一层。但是，只要把顺序调换，变成【身份—过程—结果】，从身份出发你就变成了NO.2。不理解也没关系，继续往下看就懂了。3.身份—过程—结果现在的你给自己定的是什么身份？一个不思进取的人？一个懒惰的人？一个有拖延症的人？当你想做出改变的时候，不管你承认与否，你已经在心里给自己设定了一个身份。既然是“改变”，那结果一定是与你目前的身份背道而驰的。如果我们是基于结果出发，我们所采取的行动就是以目前相反的身份来逼迫自己改变，那势必要与你的潜在意愿做无数次斗争。而且这种改变的方式有一个很大的弊端：当你完成了你的既定目标后，你可能就会停止行动，从而达不到“身份转变”这个层级的改变。因为你的关注点只是在那个结果上，完成结果以后，你还是你，没有任何变化。比如说，我想培养阅读习惯时，我给自己定了3个月看10本书的目标，完成目标以后我就松了一口气，就像是任务已经全部完成了一样。接下来那几个月我一本书都没看。相
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个人觉得以下两个都能表达你要的意思1，Let's talk about another thing我们谈论点别的什么吧,2，Let's chang the another topics我们换个别的话题吧
中国作家林建
影响的英语作文1with the rapid development of our country in recent years,the number of rural residents who pour into big cities to find jobs is increasing so as to meet the growing demand of labors in cities construction. these rural "immigrants" find their jobs in various fields: they work on construction sites, serve in restaurants and hair saloons doing the lower-ranking jobs. they render cities a new source of labor force and poured cities with new vigor. this phenomenon has a great impact on cities and aroused public concerns. it seems hard to tell whether it is a blessing or a curse.some city dwellers don＇t welcome these rural immigrants.they look down upon them and always find fault with them. it＇s undeniable that many problems emerged with their coming. we can always find rural workers who sleep on the pavement, who are sloppily dressed in public places and who don＇t obey traffic laws. some of them don＇t have a sense of social order and act the way they like.those who discriminate against rural workers complain that they deteriorate the image and status of big cities.some citizens also believe that they are the chief culprits of the rising crime rate. it＇s inevitable that not every rural worker is competitive enough for a job and some may run the risk of violating laws to gain illegal incomes.however, in my humble opinion, the demerits of the ruralinvasion could not wipe out the merits that they have made great contributions to the progress of our society. we should not forget the arduous work they take on to make our city beautiful and modern. we should not forget their devotion to the basic construction of our society. with heart and soul, they sacrifice their whole youth without any complaints. thus, they cannot merely be evaluated by the demerits they brought. without these indus trious workers, skyscrapers could not have been erected; roads could not have been paved； bridges could not have been built.therefore, i want to remind those who discriminate against rural workers, the prosperity of the cities owes a lot to themthe constructors of our beautiful city and the builders of our prosper ous life.it is gratitude and respect we need to show these heroes, not disdain.china has a large population of 1. 3 billion, of which 900 million live in rural areas. most of the rural residents are still struggling under the poverty line.the immigrants have heavy burdens to support their poor families.working in cities is a good opportunity but also a great challenge for these newcomers.the challenge not only lies in survival but also in the relationship with local residents. some city habitants disdain rural workers,while the rural workers also have a deep prejudice against us.both sides need better understanding and more communication.if there were no prejudice, there would be more understanding and respect and there would be no conflicts.影响的英语作文2Can machines really think? The artificial intelligence, such as a computer that thinks like a human being is scary. Is building a machine that thinks like a human really possible? We are ever closer to building an AI that thinks like a human. When it comes to this issues, different people offer different views, some people think that machine has feelings like human beings is interesting and it may be a better server to human; while the other think it is dangerous, it may causes a revolt.
