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Book 3本书3Unit 1 Personality1单元人格The Misery of Shyness羞怯地痛苦Shyness害羞的is是the的cause原因of的much多unhappiness不幸的for为a一个great伟大的many许多people.的人。All所有的kinds种of的people的人describe描述themselves自己as作为shy:害羞的：short,短，tall,高高的，dull,迟钝的，intelligent,智能，young,年轻的，old,老，slim,苗条的，overweight.超重的。Shy害羞的people的人are是anxious焦虑的and和self-conscious;自觉的；that那is,是，they他们are是excessively过度的concerned with关心their own appearance and actions. Worrisome thoughts are constantly自己的外表和行为。令人烦恼的想法不断swirling旋转的in在their他们的minds:头脑：What什么kind种of的impression印象am我I我making?制作？Do做they他们like像me?我？Do做I我sound stupid? I'm ugly. I'm wearing unattractive clothes.听起来很愚蠢？我很丑。我穿的衣服难看。It它is是obvious明显的that那such这样的uncomfortable不舒服的feelings感情must必须affect影响people的人adversely.不利的。A一个person's self-concept is reflected in the way人的自我意识反映在路上he or she behaves, and the way a他或她的行为上，而一person的人behaves的行为affects影响other其他的people's人民reactions.反应。In在general,一般，the的way方法people的人think认为about关于themselves自己has有a一个profound深刻effect的影响on在all areas所有地区of的their他们的lives.的生活。For为instance,实例，people的人who谁have有a一个positive积极的sense感of的self-worth自我价值感or或high高self-esteem自尊usually通常act行为with随着confidence.信心。Because they have self-assurance, they do not need constant praise and encouragement因为他们有自信，他们不需要不断的表扬和鼓励from从others别人to对feel感觉good好的about关于themselves.自己。Self-confident自信的people的人participate参与in在life生活enthusiastically热情地and和spontaneously.自发的。They他们are是not不affected影响by通过what什么others别人think认为they他们"should" do. People with high self-esteem are not hurt by criticism; they do not regard“应该”做的。高自尊的人不会受到批评；他们不会把criticism批评as作为a一个personal个人attack.攻击。Instead,而不是，they他们view视图a一个criticism批评as作为a一个suggestion建议for为improvement.改进。In contrast, shy people, having low self-esteem, are likely to be passive and easily相反，害羞的人，低自尊，很可能是被动的，容易influenced by受others. They need别人。他们需要reassurance that they are doing "the确保他们正在做的right thing".正确的事”。Shy害羞的people are very sensitive to criticism; they feel it confirms their inferiority. They also find人们对批评很敏感，他们觉得这证实了他们的自卑感。他们还发现it它difficult困难的to对be是pleased高兴的by通过compliments恭维话because因为they他们believe相信they他们are是unworthy不值得的of的praise.赞美。A一个shy害羞的person的人may可能respond回应to对a一个compliment恭维with随着a一个statement声明like像this这one:一个："You're just saying that to make me feel good. I know it's not true." It is clear that, while“你刚才所说的使我感觉很好。我知道这不是真的。”很明显，而self-awareness is a healthy quality, overdoing it is detrimental, or harmful.自我意识是一种健康的品质，做的很是不利的，有害的。Can shyness be completely eliminated, or at least reduced? Fortunately, people can羞怯能完全消除，或至少减少？幸运的是，人们可以overcome shyness with determined and patient effort in building self-confidence. Since克服坚持不懈地努力建立自信的羞涩。自shyness goes hand in hand with lack of self-esteem, it is important for people to accept羞怯和缺乏自尊，人们的接受是很重要的their weaknesses as well as their strengths. For example, most people would like to be他们的弱点以及他们的长处。例如，大多数人都会想"A"“一个”students的学生in在every每一个subject.主题。It它is是not不fair公平的for为them他们to对label标签themselves自己as作为inferior低劣的because they have difficulty in some areas. People's expectations of themselves must be因为他们在某些方面有困难。人们对自己的期望必须realistic. Dwelling on the impossible leads to a sense of inadequacy, and even feelings of现实的。老想着不可能的事会导致信心不足，甚至感情envy,嫉妒，or或jealousy.嫉妒。We我们are是self-destructive自我毁灭when当we我们envy嫉妒a一个student的学生who谁gets获取better更好的grades.等级。If you are shy, here are some specific helpful steps toward building self-confidence如果你是害羞的，这里有一些具体而有效的步骤，建立自信and overcoming shyness:克服害羞：1.1。Recognize识别your你的personal个人strengths优势and和weaknesses.弱点。Everyone每个人has有both.两。As作为
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