岁月静好-静静
how to say "NO"Saying no is a challenge that each of us faces every single day. Some of us are very good at saying no, while others struggle with the concept. Due to the need to "people please" or be popular, we sometimes take on anything and everything. This just isn't healthy! Here is how to say no even when it is uncomfortable.1. Utilize your common sense. Saying no is uncomfortable sometimes, and it should only be done when there are no other viable options. Spend some time thinking over any requests before answering, and see if there is a compromise available. Do not rush to answer and then realize that you could have gotten by with saying maybe.2. Answer people with a respectful no. When we are faced with a situation where it is not in our best interest to answer a request, it is important to decline and say no with kindness. Most people will accept rejection gracefully if it is done with respect.3. Speak in an even, calm manner. When saying no, you should always keep your voice on an even keel. This will help to ease the stress of the situation, and avoid arguments. People like to get their way, and saying no will be stressful sometimes. Always remain calm when saying no.4. Suggest an alternative to their request. Sometimes when you say no, it is an opportunity to help someone come up with a better idea. Do not be afraid to give them alternative choices. You may not be able to host that party, but you might be willing to help out in some other way. Think over any request and suggest another idea.5. Stand your ground when you are challenged. Some people will not take no for an answer and this is when it is vital that you stand your ground. Do not give in to anger, bullying or abusive behavior. You have a right to say no to any request that you are uncomfortable with. Say no, and mean it!
北极豆豆鱼
Utilize your common sense. Saying no is uncomfortable sometimes, and it should only be done when there are no other viable options. Spend some time thinking over any requests before answering, and see if there is a compromise available. Do not rush to answer and then realize that you could have gotten by with saying maybe.
我爱欧文
英语3分钟演讲稿：Learn How to Say No
Learn How to Say No
We've all been taught that we should help people. It is the right thing to do and will make us popular with others. It may even win us favors in return. However, we must be realistic. We can't say yes to every request. If we did, we would fail or go crazy for sure. Sometimes we simply don't have the time to help. In this case, we must know how to say no politely.
When we need to say no, here is one method we can try. First, we should tell the truth. If we really can't do something, we should just say so. Second, we should remember to refuse requests politely. We must communicate clearly, but must also be sincere and sympathetic. A true friend will understand. Finally, we must not feel guilty about saying no. Sometimes refusing others is the right thing to do. It can save ourselves, and them, a lot of trouble. In short, we cannot please everyone all the time. Refusing favors is a part of life.
译文：学习如何说不
我们都被教导说，我们应该要帮助别人。这是应该做的'事，而且这样做会使我们受人欢迎。它甚至会为我们赢得一些回报。但是，我们必须要实际一点。我们不能答应每一个要求。如果我们这么做，我们就一定会失败或发疯。有时候我们确实没有时间去帮忙。既然如此，我们就必须知道如何有礼貌地说不。
当我们需要说不的时候，有个办法我们可以试试。首先，我们应该要说实话。假如我们真的办不到某件事，我们就应该说不。第二，我们应该记得要客气地拒绝对方的要求。我们必须清楚地表达，但态度也必须真诚并且表示同情。一个真正的朋友会谅解的。最后，我们不必为了说不而觉得有罪恶感。有时候拒绝别人才是我们应该做的事。它可以替我们自己和别人，都省下许多麻烦。总而言之，我们无法一直取悦每个人。拒绝请求是人生的一部分。
jennifer1959
Learn to say no Among different religions, have you ever sensed the coincidental similarity？Have you ever pondered what the similar essences are truly about? In my opinion, they are all asking people to restrain our natural desires, to say no to ourselves. Wise man says no to himself, not to others. The reason for any trouble or failure can be traced within ourselves. Even if we seem innocent, there must be a reason for someone to trip us up. We’d better examine our own behaviors, correct our faults and avoid similar mistakes thereafter. We are now facing the most unstable period in our life, youth. We run eagerly into the sparkling world, without sufficient judgment, precaution, and the consciousness of saying no. The world is fascinating, yet complicated. We are surrounded by all kinds of temptations from the outside. Yet I still believe it’s not the environment that affects us most. Someone with powerful ego goes along with the outside world just like anyone else and holds his ground silently at the same time. True power can hardly be seen. As time goes by, he who tells himself not to follow the trends blindly will certainly get his reward. Once I was climbing up Mount Huang, gasping for breath. An intriguing idea burst into my mind and supported my exhausted body during the rest of my journey—the mountain is me myself, just seems huger. It was my own weakness that I was overcoming, not the mount. Humanity is naturally weak, we say no to strengthen it gradually. Buddhists have to obey disciplines that make them say no to human weakness. They try to take off layers covering them to approach the undying inner self and to purify their spirits. They never drink to keep their self-discipline. My dad has a schoolmate that believes in Buddhism and he was once made drunken to answer questions subconsciously, in order to check. Rules are established to dismantle, so as saying no. When we are finally at the peak of cultivation after the long process of saying no to ourselves, it doesn’t matter if we slack off any more. Confucius said, ’since 70, I have been able to do what I intend freely without breaking the rules.’ Life can be easy, for those people who are simply satisfied with playing cards. It can be tough, for us who have bigger ambitions and are willing to strive for them, who dare to say no to ourselves, to refuse the coziness for now, and fight for tomorrow. It won’t be hard for us later on when it comes to the time that we can get what we deserve. I think the restraint and diligence are worth suffering. Learn to say no, suffer now, enjoy then.
