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“三书六礼”指的是旧时汉族习俗的一种婚姻礼仪。“三书”指的是聘书、礼书和迎亲书,是在六礼的过程中需要用到的文书。“六礼”指的是纳采、问名、纳吉、纳征、请期和亲迎,是由求婚到完婚的整个结婚过程。
所谓“聘书”,指的是“定亲书”在男女双方正式缔结婚约的时候,也就是纳吉的时候所用到的文书。
“礼书”是过礼的文书,也就是礼物的清单,书中详细写明所送礼物的种类以及数量,在纳征的时候会用到。
“迎亲书”是指迎接新娘用到的文书,在结新娘过门的时候用的。
“三书六礼,明媒正娶”的具体内容:
这古代的结婚过程,与现代的意义有点不同。现代的结婚过程一般指结婚当日所举行的礼仪,三书六礼的结婚过程则包括了从谈婚、订婚到结婚等过程的文书和礼仪。与现代相似,整个传统婚姻习俗礼仪通知了亲属邻里,以取得社会的认可和保障。
除此之外,传统婚姻习俗礼仪使结婚的夫妇取得祖先神灵的认可和承担履行对父母及亲属的权利义务。
故此在古代某些时代,男女若非完成三书六礼的过程,婚姻便不被承认为明门正娶;嫁娶仪节的完备与否,直接影响婚姻的吉利。不过,在不同的中国朝代时期中,婚俗礼仪亦有所不同。
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Betrothal Letter, Gift Letter and Wedding Letter (三书:聘书、礼书和迎亲书)Three Letters and Six Etiquettes 三书六礼~~~~~~~~~In the ancient times, it was very important to follow a basic principle of Three Letters and Six Etiquettes(三书六礼), since they were essential to a marriage. Three letters include Betrothal Letter, Gift Letter and Wedding Letter.Three Letters (三书:聘书、礼书和迎亲书)Betrothal LetterThis letter is the formal document of the engagement, a must in a marriage. It is sent by the perspective groom's family to the perspective bride's family.Gift LetterThis letter will be forwarded to the identified bride's family, listing types and quantity of gifts for the wedding once both parties accept the marriage.Wedding LetterThis letter is presented to the bride's family on the day of the wedding. It confirms the act of bringing the bride into the groom's family.Six Etiquettes (六礼:纳采、问名、纳吉、纳征、请期和亲迎)ProposingIf an unmarried boy's parents identify a girl as their future daughter-in-law, then they will find a matchmaker. Proposal used to be practiced by a matchmaker. The matchmaker will formally present his or her client's request to the identified girl's parents.Birthday matchingIf the potential bride's parents do not object the marriage, the matchmaker will ask for the girl's birthday and birthhour record to assure the compatibility of the potential bride and bridegroom. A fortune-telling master is hired to determine whether the two match each other. If the couple's birthdays and birthhours do not conflict according to astrology, the marriage will step into the next stage. Once there is a conflict, meaning the marriage will bring disasters to the boy's family or the girl's, the proposed marriage stops.Presenting betrothal giftsOnce birthdays match, the bridegroom's family will then arrange the matchmaker to present betrothal gifts, enclosing the betrothal letter, to the bride's family.Exchange Birthdays and Family TreeIf the groom and the bride's birthdays are OK (meaning that no disaster is predicted by the fortune teller if the two get married), the two families will exchange their family records/family tree.
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