晓晓彤儿
这是我曾经上过的一堂课心理课“学会说不”中涉及的内容。当我们有正当的理由时,我们可以拒绝他人,但也要理解和尊重别人,只有这样才能得到别人的理解和尊重,并不因拒绝别人而失去了友谊。如何说“不”。 ①拒绝(直接或间接相告,注意文明礼貌,尊重别人) ②并说出理由(如太晚了、考试作弊) ③想出替代的方式(提出一些健康可行的可供选择的替代方式) 在这个例子中,(1)来访者可以直接拒绝小军帮忙作弊的要求。(2)告诉他,如果被老师发现,大家都是0分;即使没有发现,以后遇到同样的问题,小军还是不会做,表面上看起来分数高了,其实是害了他。(3)但是来访者可以答应帮小军复习考试的功课,哪里不懂,来访者可以教小军,直到他弄懂为止。祝来访者和小军永远是好朋友!
紫晨郡主
一天,心理辅导室的李老师收到一位学生的来信:老师:这几天我的心情很不好。因为前些天 ,我的好友小军偷偷找我,要求我在即将到来的考试中“帮帮”他,当时我没有拒绝他。这几天,我一直在想这个问题,越想就越不对劲,越想越心烦。我知道,如果我真的按他的要求做了,就是考试作弊,不但对他学业进步毫无作用,而且还害了他;同事,也会使自己在考试中提心吊胆,不能全力以赴,影响自己的考试成绩。可如果不帮他,他肯定会不理解我,这可能会影响我们之间的友情!老师,我现在真的很苦恼,考试临近了,我真的不知道该怎么办。请你当一回心理老师,给这位同学写封回信。
虎妞1989
心理老师给学生解决心理问题的回信 岁,18岁以下,你们的情感世界基本是不定格的,你们可能会倾慕上各种各样的人。一些人年长你们很多,一些人遥不可及,但是,你们基本都喜优秀的男生和女生,或者是一些家庭背景雄厚的男生和女生,相信我,这绝对是少女怀春,男生未成熟的一种表现。 2.在读大学以前,我希望你们把时间都留给学业,缘分,交给上帝安排。 3.在求学的期间,你们会遇见很多的问题,如:学习成绩不好,考试被不通过很多次,暗恋某个男生,女生,开小差,谈恋爱等等。但是,请相信我,等你们进入大学以后,你们一定会有更多的机会遇见更多更优秀的女孩,男孩,然后,你们会相爱,再后,你会忘记曾经你喜欢过,有爱慕情感的人。(这个过程基本上每个男生女生都经历过) 总结:心理问题,在国外是一个相当普遍的问题,那么,中国毕竟是个发展中国家,也并非所有的人都会一直去学习了解很多的知识领域,自然,多数的家长(除非是一些生意人)可能会比较的清楚心理领域的一些知识(因为见多识广),基本在中国,这属于一个盲区,因此,我们也要带有一种包容的心态去看待中国人多数不接受这个问题的想法。所以,你们一旦有什么想不明白的问题,去一些正规的心理培训机构,找个你们看的顺眼的医生(多方面的去了解他们的职业操守描述,个人简历等等,最好是心理咨询师,好好聊聊,尽早解开心理领域的困惑。) Reply psychological teachers solve psychological problems for students years old, 18 years old the following, your emotional world basic is notfixed, you may admire a wide variety of people. Some older many of you, somefar fetched, but, you basically like good boys and girls, or some family background rich boys and girls, believe me, this is definitely a boy girl Huaichun,immature performance. University of reading in the past, I hope you take the time to study, fate, to god. the study period, you will meet a lot of problems, such as: the achievement is not good, the examination is not passed many times, a crush ona boy, a girl, desertion, love and so on. But please believe me, after you enter the University, you will have more opportunities to meet more and more excellentgirl, boy, then you will fall in love again, you will forget what you like, love the emotion of the people. (this process is basically every boys and girlsexperienced) Conclusion: psychological problems, in foreign countries is a very common problem, then, China is a developing country, is also not all the people will haveto learn a lot of knowledge in the field, the nature, the majority of the parents(unless some business people) may be more clearly some knowledge of psychological field (because informed), basic in China, this is a blind area,therefore, we should also with a tolerant attitude to treat the Chinese majority does not accept this idea. So, once you have something you want to do not understand the problem, to some formal psychological training institutions, find ayou look pleasing to the eye doctor (in many aspects to understand theirprofessional integrity description, resume and so on, it is best to talk,psychologist, as soon as possible to solve psychological field of confusion.)
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